As a woman, I could understand your point of view, but for a fair understanding, I would ask you to take a look at it from a woman's perspective.
To start, I do agree that the lack of fans is a problem. However, I do not believe it is due to the non-existence of fans. I know their are fans out. I am one and have been one for years now. In my opinion, the dilemma is the overall competition between the WNBA and the NBA.
The NBA was established first. At that point of time, all funds for any pro basketball endeavors where delegated there. That it all fine and good. When the WNBA came into play, I am sure many assumed that the league would reap the same benefits. As we know, that is not the case. The differences are vividly present: number of games played, the pay, and most importantly, the marketing/advertising activities.
Before a NBA season starts, it is the talk of the town. It's being broadcasted over the radio, shown on multiple TV stations and is trending on almost every social media site. When we flip to a beginning of a WNBA season, there are some commercials, but if you are wanting detailed information, you have to find it out yourself. I know this for a fact, because I have done it personally. Without an effect marketing/advertising effort, there is no awareness; with no awareness, there is no results.
As far as the whole "equal say". I think it more of equal opportunity. There are females that can play sports as well as males. All they wanted was a chance to do so, which they currently have.
To make it known, I am a WNBA and a NBA fan. There's nothing better than seeing Chris Paul throw the alley-oop to Blake Griffin, or seeing Kevin Durant knock down a 3-pointer in the last 0.9 seconds to win the game. I love it! I also loved seeing Candace Parker dunking the ball on a breakaway layup, or Brittney Griner sends shots backwards to half-court. It's all excitement. I just feel there are things that still need to be done. If we, as a whole. could get behind the WNBA and supply sufficient and effective efforts to do more, I honestly believe that things would change dramatically.